It wasn’t so long ago that we relied on our friends, family, co-workers, or any other connection to meet potential partners. While those avenues are still available, there were some problems with that practice. First, the basis of the connection is that you know someone, who knows someone that is single. The idea of this connection is that you are both single without anything else really to go on. Sure you can always hop on Facebook to check out their picture but do you know anything about them going into it other than what they look like and they are single?
Let’s say that you hit it off and you take it to the next level, what happens if it doesn’t work out? The person that introduced you, is now in an awkward position. If the person that introduced you has a cookout, one of you are not getting invited. The dynamics of your relationships can change based on this one idea that your friend has a single friend.
The solution to this? Online dating. The screening process is much more in-depth than meeting a friend of a friend. When you are on an online service, you can specifically search for the person that you want. Are you looking for a guy that is 6’3” to 6’8”, light brown hair, athletic build, lives within twenty-five miles of you, that doesn’t smoke, is a social drinker, and plays the ukulele? Perhaps you are a guy that is looking for someone that looks like Marilyn Monroe but with the personality of a Jennifer Anniston. You want her to look amazing, smart, loving, charismatic, but be okay with your love for your PlayStation and all things video games.
Well, you can find that person through an online dating service! Before you even talk to this person you can see their picture, interests, where they live and much more than the information you can get from a friend of a friend who is single.
The internet has changed the way people look at each other. Since we live in such a customizable society, we believe that we can get anything that we want if we just look for it. This idea moves people to the internet because your search now moves from where you live to anywhere the internet reaches. In addition, finding a potential match by a mouse click is much more convenient and easier than approaching a guy or girl in a crowded bar or being setup on a blind/ double date.
So, how do you find a date online? Jot down what you are looking for in a potential life partner. Look for a dating service that provides you with a good pool of candidates that meet your interest. For example, if you like Alabama sports and finding a partner to root on your team is important, than sign up with BAMAmeetup.com. I know, shameless plug but hey, you are on BAMAmeetup.com reading this blog. So, mentioning BAMAmeetup.com should be expected. Back to where we were, search for some that meets your interests, contact them through the dating service, spend some time getting to know them, and if it looks like your friendship could move beyond that meet them. Be sure to take precautions, meet in a public place, never go back to his/her home, drive separately, inform friends and/or family where you are going and who you will be with.
Good luck in your search for love! Remember, be yourself, and keep your expectations realistic.